Inside my mind!

Narcissistic personality disorder is something one needs to be diagnosed with by a psychiatrist. However these people tend to not think anything is wrong with them enough in order to get diagnosed with it, for the few who do, have already done quite a bit of damage to the women who have tried to love them.  (PS: narcissistic personality is as often present in men as it is in women, in this piece, we're taking an example of a narcissistic man, but the same and more applies to women.) So as a woman, it is in your best interest to know what symptoms to look for, because regardless of the diagnosis, those symptoms can have a long effect on you.   Contrary to the stereotype, it's not just a self absorbed, conceited guy who posts a lot of selfies and fishes for compliments all day... that is one part of it, but the single, most characteristic sign of a narcissistic man is a man who thinks the world revolves around him and that nobody else's feelings matter.  On the dating

What is emotional eating? It's a form of disordered eating and is defined as an increase in food intake in response to negative emotions, and can be considered maladaptive strategy used to cope with difficult feelings. Or in other words, it's a poor excuse of a title we give ourselves for binge eating (I don't mean the binge eating disorder), indulging in the consumption of food or substances we know will hurt us and we know we regret the second they enter our bodies, but we keep on doing it until we find ourselves covered in our own tears. After talking to several people who admit to being "emotional eaters", I've found one thing in common in both men and women, self loathing. Coping with a problem by hurting ourselves? Isn't that a form of masochism? How do we expect ourselves to get better if instead of solving the current problems, we are creating bigger ones, only making the pile bigger and heavier to carry on our own? In answer to my qu

Sometimes people get close to you due to envy of the energy you project, they pretend to love you to get to know you closely and copy you... and when they realize they can never be you, before they leave, they try to destroy you... so you are no good for anyone else... Those are the people we need to be careful of. Not all smiles are real... some are a display of "fangs". Angelic looks may hide an evil core... Sometimes beauty is a weapon and those who know how to use it can be great manipulators. Beauty and the beast are in this case one and the same. Emotional manipulation, lying, machiavellism, the use of charm, emotional starvation, negativity, accusation, playing victim, tears, apologies, spying, plotting, teaming up with other "martyrs", destroying reputations, pretending to be sweet and innocent... are all tools we need to understand and identify as the weapons of a well trained narcissistic psychopath.  When you encounter such a character, cut your los

Today is a sad day. One of the 90's most loved female voices, performers, singers, song writers has died a sudden death and there is no further explanation about it in the media. I was hoping it was just another stupid internet hoax, but it seems legit as the news is on the official pages of the Cranberries all over social media. I still can't believe it, here I am laying in bed, googling and hoping to find a clue for it to be fake news... but alas it's true. My teenage years' inspiration and almost like an older sister figure has passed. Here I am mourning and crying over a person who never knew of my existence. What is happening to me? Why am I crying? I am not a person who runs after celebrities or is interested in following them or their lives... but Dolores has found her way into my life since my early teenage years and has built a permanent place for herself inside my heart. Over the years I have listened to her music, sang her songs... I was so close to ev

Don't let anyone chip away at you... specially those who supposedly "love" you. If you allow them, they will not leave anything in you... and that's when they will leave you, sore, empty and lost... Love is supposed to lift you up, encourage you, motivate you and bring out the best in you, not tear you down to pieces. Those who know what love really is like can't be anything but genuine, be wise enough to recognize the true faces of people. Love doesn't hurt, wrong people do. Sometimes life needs a thorough cleaning... make that a ritual, when needed. Gather your strength, cut your loss and get rid of toxic people. You owe it to yourself. Real love, you feel it, you see it, you show it! Fake love is just words... Sometimes people pretend they love another because they just don't want to be alone... Maybe because that person is good for their ego. Or maybe because they make them feel better about their miserable life, but they don't really love them.